Why men have affairs?
Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, that’s it. Amusing thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be filled with troubles, cause misery, and other harms. In addition you must wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married men.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affairs. I am sure mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to turn the craving on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos society has erected against affairs. For many people the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is horribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anybody else? You will need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the major grouping, huge actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they feel happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that prevent them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Neglect, sadly this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a male I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us men of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is vanished, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our ordinary interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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